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  • Six ways to overcome a bad breakup

    Six ways to overcome a bad breakup

    Breakups are hard and there is no denying that. Separating yourself from your significant other is not only a change in your daily routine but also your habits that develop after many lovely days spent together. While at times breakups come as a relief from a long, painful relationship; there are changes that might make one feel a little lost in the recovery process. And it is absolutely normal. Everybody goes through the pain of overcoming a bad breakup and we feel that it is important at some level. The one thing that can make overcoming a bad breakup easy is not looking at it in a negative light. When you’re going through a breakup ask yourself if you really need a complicated, unrewarding relationship. We are sure the answer will be no and if it is, move on. Take a look at the positive side and understand yourself better. Here are ways to overcome a bad breakup and come out of it feeling light and refreshed.

    PS: There is no fast way of getting through a breakup. It is a gradual process and taking time to grieve is very normal.

    #1 Understand the importance of being in a rewarding relationship

    Breaking up isn’t always as bad as it is touted to be. Being in a relationship that doesn’t make you feel emotionally empowered is worse than being in no relationship at all. Think about your equation with your parents or your best friend. If your significant other doesn’t reciprocate feelings the same way they do, they do not deserve to be “significant” in your life. Understand it and move on and find someone who would treat you as an equal.

     

    #2 Socialise but spend some time with yourself too

    It’s a common perception that getting too busy is the best way of getting out of a daunting breakup. It is true, but not entirely. Filling the new void in your life with friends and work is all right, but it is essential that you become comfortable with the idea of not having another person around. Spend some time alone, by yourself to make your peace with it and move on in a healthy fashion. And by healthy, we do not mean with a bottle of vodka, a jar of Nutella and a rom-com with Jennifer Aniston.

    #3 Take time to grieve

    It’s okay to hold your own while going through an emotional trauma, but taking time to grieve is vital. You will think about moments from the past and it will make your cry and it is best to just do it! Call up a friend and talk to them about how you feel, cry if you feel like. Believe us; it’ll be better than crying in front of Tom from work with a glass (read bottle) of wine in your hand. Think about what’ll happen on Monday after, therefore, just stick to friends for the grief.

     

    #4 Don’t be disheartened by your breakup, take it in a positive stride

    Breakups happen because two people cannot understand everything about each other. And both the people are at fault, stop punishing yourself alone. Instead, take this as learning to a better relationship, when you have one. Reflect on what went wrong and correct it so next time when love comes your way, you treat it well.

     

    #5 Start a fitness regime

    Join a gym or a fitness studio and get going. Exercise is an underutilised antidepressant and you must make good use of it. We’d recommend a mix of yoga, zumba, cardio and strength workouts to keep the excitement alive. You’ll learn something new, make new friends and get a good change. Go out, get fit, feel healthy and embrace a new lifestyle.

    #6 Write about how you feel Another underutilised way to overcoming a bad breakup is writing.You will feel the need to make an angry phone call or leave an angry text message but take it from us, it will not help. It might make things worse actually. Space yourself out from your SO for a bit and instead of the angry call/text, write how you feel on a piece of paper. By writing we do not mean send it out via post, NO! Just write and vent out. We are sure you’ll feel better. 
     

    All said and done, breakups are tough but relax, the worst is over. You need to look at all the new adventures that are waiting. We hope this guide to overcoming a bad breakup helps you. Take care of yourself, breathe and smile.

  • 6 signs that indicate your need to have one-night stands

    6 signs that indicate your need to have one-night stands

    While sex is not a topic people like to speak about publically, everyone knows that they need some and there is nothing wrong with it. There are a million studies that indicate the benefits of having sex. People, who have sex on a regular basis, live longer, experience lesser heart issues, have lower anxiety and are generally happy and satisfied. While all these factors are understandable, the one issue is that to have sex you need another person. And depending on where you are in your life, it’s not always important to be in a steady relationship to get your fix. There is a lot of social stigma related to one-night stands but hey, if two people can get through it on the basis of a mutual understanding then why not?

    One-night stands are best recommended for people who are not certain about where they are in their lives, well emotionally. They offer the comfort of not sitting through relationship talks/dates, not staying in bed the next morning, not emotionally investing in a commitment and just politely getting their physical fix and moving on.

    The problem also lies in deciding whether you’re ready for a one-night stand. Are you okay with getting physically involved with a stranger? Will you be able to drive yourself out of it no-strings-attached? Here are six signs that you’re ready for a one-night stand.

    #1 You’re not ready to get into an emotional commitment

    To be able to have a one-night stand successfully, you have to be one hundred percent sure that you’re ready to fully ignore the emotion bit. One-night stands hold a no-emotion rule, if you’re free of them; you’re ready to get some.

     

    #2 You’re absolutely sure about your expectations

    Let’s face it, one-night stands, in plain words, mean CASUAL sex. So if you’re up for something that is as casual as getting up and going home after the jig is up (no pun intended) you’re ready for it. Even if you experience a hint of jitters or doubt, do not get into it.

     

    #3 Adventure is what you’re looking for

    It goes without saying, one-night stands are adventurous. They are not like a backpacking or hiking activity, but you might end up exploring things you never knew. YES, that happens. Ready to explore some downtown adventure? If the answer is yes, take the hint and start working.

     

    #4 You’re getting out of an emotional rollercoaster and need a distraction

    We all know that getting out of a deep and emotional relationship isn’t easy. If you’re dealing with something that is over and is still causing a stir in your brain, get the much-needed distraction from a hookup. Not just us, many studies have also proven the fact that one-night stands are a natural coping mechanism for breakups or even other emotional turmoils. However, please keep in mind that these are a casual distraction, do not confuse them for a relationship.

     

    #5 You’re looking for a change                                                                 

    Everyone needs a small change once in a while. Whether it’s having a relationship or the lack of it, one-night stands can help. Getting physically close to someone makes your body feel a rush of hormones that have been known to uplift spirits and mood.

     

    #6 You think double standards are BS, if a man can do it so can a woman!

    For some reason, we have been tuned into thinking that one-night stands are fine for men but not for women. Well, that, is, BULL****! If a man can get out of something without giving two hoots to any feelings, so can a woman. Mutual consensus and body needs should not care about what the society thinks. The society doesn’t have to live with your choices, you have to, make yours!