Tag: love

Six things every guy in their early twenties can relate to!

This one is about the things every guy in their early twenties can relate to and if you have crossed that road, well, let’s just look back in the past and feel great about the times you spent with your squad. The days in college and landing into the age of twenty, that feeling was something but the things didn’t really change much till the time life came holding chilled beer and told you, go out there and do what all the guys of your age are doing! And saying that by experience, these are going to be the best years of your life so far if you do it right. And if you’re doing it right, here are the seven things every guy in their twenties can relate to!

#1 Confused with too many career options on the list!

In this age, when people are so deep into the cut-throat competition for getting a job, there were and still are many guys who had too many options to choose from and many times we were tumbling between turning into a writer, actor, journalist or a traveller. Some of us will end up where we have actually dreamt of and some will move further with more options or maybe just maybe end up handling family’s business. But wherever you start, make sure to experiment with career options. It’ll help you find what you actually want to do. You know it.

Source

#2 Experimental flings

Aaaand talking about experimenting things, flings kind of rhymes with it. You know where this is going and it probably reminds you of the experiments you’ve done or have been a part of. Be proud and explore. You have complete life ahead you to experience love. Here’s to the good times that are in the past and the experiences coming in near future!

Source

#3 Drinking and partying

Drinking and partying. Two words that sum up weekend plans for many guys and we ain’t complaining. Some of us have even given names to our favourite wine and beer shops. Yes, we have favourite wine and beer shops too. Don’t underestimate the guys who have no other plans than drinking and partying.

Source

#4 Impromptu road trips

We can’t speak for everyone but ourselves and according to us, impromptu road trips are one of the best things to be a part of for every guy in their early twenties. And they are best when happening with your guy friends. You’ll know what we are talking about when you hit the road and for those who’ve been through this, we know the smile on your face right now.

Source

#5 Tripping on overconfidence

Don’t you deny, guys, overconfidence has always been a part of you. We’re not really talking academics but everything. From bets of having the most vodka shots to going up to a girl and talking to her, we will give into it and give our best to ace it. Now, yes, overconfidence is a bad thing but sometimes it gives you courage to take the decisions that turn into incredible stories to tell. True story.

Source

#6 Unnecessary expenditure on things you don’t need

Um, to be honest, this still happens. And are we going to stop? Not likely. But do we cry and curse our luck when we run out of money to spend on things that actually matter? Always. But that’s what every guy in their early twenties are all about. Doing things that hardly matter but are fun and turn into memories to live by while you grow missing those years.

Source

Guys, if you’re turning twenty or have already hit that mark, we suggest you take notes from this post and get inspired to do some crazy things! We’d love to hear some epic stories!

Featured image: source

March 14, 2016
Here are all the reasons why Valentine’s Day is annoyingly overrated!

What exactly is so special about Valentine’s Day that makes half of the world go mad and do things out of their way just to make their better half feel special? We don’t mean to offend you but Valentine’s week is one of the stupidest things on the face of the Earth. Let us walk you through it so we can explain our point better. It might just help you and leave your wallet heavy, the way it should be. These reasons will tell you why Valentine’s Day is annoyingly overrated.

#1 The Valentine’s week!

First of all, who came up with this thing and why? That person had to make things difficult for a man like it wasn’t already difficult to handle relationships and make their other half feel pampered. Pretty sure that person had a lot of money on him. Anyway, moving on to the first day, that’s Rose day. A rose that costs you not more than twenty bucks is sold for triple the amount and that’s just a start because not all girls are going to be happy with just ONE rose. You’ve got to save up for this damned week!

Source

Next is Propose Day and man, is anything scarier than that? There is, and it’s coming for you. But talking about Propose day, you can’t do that empty handed, so you need to get a gift and there’s only one thing that comes to our mind, a ring. Look at you, already sweating and oh, remember, the ring should be the perfect size and type. All the best with that!

Source

Up next is Chocolate Day, you know what that means? A chocolate will make your girl happier than you will. That one might hurt. You can take revenge by eating that chocolate and never let your girl have it. But you’re safe if your girlfriend has recently joined gym. You just got lucky.

Source

The second most annoying day after Valentine’s Day goes to Teddy Day. The day that makes you look stupid and you’re probably okay with it. Carrying a big ass teddy that cost you half your pocket money, how can you not wipe your tears off of that thing? You deserve that much!

Source

We just told you that that there’s something scarier than Propose Day and it’s coming for you. Well, it’s here and in the Valentine’s language, it’s called Promise Day. Now, remember, if your better half asks you to make a promise, choose your words wisely and please don’t use the word ‘forever’. That’d be a really stupid thing to do because they WILL remember the ‘promise’. Do not take this lightly; after all, you got yourself into this mess.

Source

The next two days are what people (mostly men) actually wait for and want to celebrate, Hug Day followed by Kiss Day. And not in a desperate manner, but because men actually prefer these two things more than chocolates, teddy bears, roses and all that, no two ways about it!

Source

The last and the most important day (only God knows why), Valentine’s Day, is the day of love. But we’re still unable to understand why it is so special. You don’t need a specific set of days to pamper your better half or a specific day to tell them how much you love them or how much they matter to you. That can be done any day of the year!

Source

Other than that, it gets annoying seeing the colour red every damn where! There’s no compulsion to wear red and especially be all match-matchy! That’s not cool.

#2 Expectations are on the rise!

That goes without saying, after all the drama you’ve been doing for a week, expectations are always on a rise and sadly your pocket isn’t. And everybody knows how problematic both the things are. It’s always hard to keep up with someone’s expectations and to meet them is just another story. So, if your better half is expecting something from you, be ready to entertain them.

Source

#3 Prices of gifts by thieving corporates touch new heights every year

That’s true you know, these corporates have a week of season for the sale of their ‘Valentine’s Day special’ products and heck, they make the most of it! Everything from greeting cards to all types of gifts is sold at a price that would give you second thoughts on being in a relationship. As annoying as it is, it’s funny for a person who is free from all this, hence a single, not-committed-to-anyone man!

Source

But if you’re reading this and are still going to celebrate Valentine’s Day, we respect that and we hope you have good one!

February 13, 2016
Have you heard about friends with emotional benefits? Here are the Dos and Don’ts

Friends with emotional benefits is a newer version of ‘friends with benefits’. It is safe to assume that we have all heard about the concept of ‘friends with benefits’, more commonly known as FWB. It wasn’t just designed for Mila Kunis and Natalie Portman to star in clichéd chick flicks, the arrangement does exist and we are not sure if it works. Just like many relationships, the common outcome of FWB also, at times, is one of the two parties getting hurt. So why are these not called relationships? The only reasons they are not called relationships are because they are officially commitment-free, questions-free and hassle-free. You don’t need to explain FWBs to your friends; you don’t need to introduce this “friend” to your other friends or need to explain anything. It’s just casual sex with a person you’re comfortable around. Period.

The complication arises when one of the two parties starts expecting more than the laid rules. Again, like a relationship, expectations don’t get delivered and the usual shit hits the ceiling and the FWB arrangement ends. There are rare cases when they do end on a mutual agreement too but like we said, these are rare. And the discomfort about ending these on a bad note is the physical part, the whole reason you got into one. When FWB gets too much for you to take or if you’re not ready to share your private, physical space with someone but still need the benefits of a non-committed relationship; friends with emotional benefits kicks in.

‘Friends with emotional benefits’ is really a relationship without the sex and the commitment. So you get the pampering part, the whining part, the inside jokes, the late calls but no sex. It’s like being in a relationship in your head but not on paper. This arrangement remains comfortable for people who are not up for sharing their physical space with a friend yet need emotional support to get through things in life. But like all other arrangements, this also comes with its list of dos and don’ts.

#1 Confide but do not expect

In an FWeB, you may confide in this friend and talk about him/her about any problems; personal or professional and ask for their advice. Where you need to stop is expecting them to do the same. FWeBs do not qualify for a two-way street. The other party might offer you tips to get through your problems but it does not necessarily mean that you get to offer your opinions too (until asked for).

#2 Both the parties are allowed to have physical relationships with other people, but honesty is the key

The entire point of having an FWeB is to give the emotions an outlet. Sex or hook-ups with your FWeB is a big NO. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t venture out for your physical needs. If you or your friend are physically involved with other people, it’s okay but be honest about it. Let your FWeB know that you are and come to a mutual agreement about it.

#3 FWeBs do not turn into real relationships unless both of them want it to be like that

Having friends with emotional benefits is actually harder than having a friend with just physical benefits because the boundaries get blurred here. Friends with emotional benefits are not relationships and should not be confused for being one. They are just people you can talk to and get out of it whenever you want (with a mutual agreement of course). If you wanted to be with this person for real, wouldn’t it have been a commitment?

#4 Know where to draw the line

In an FWeB, you’re essentially just friends. Maintaining that is important. Do not take this equation to realms that confuse things, and if that happens, we suggest end it. Emotional benefits can last for very long or for a very short duration depending on how comfortable people are. Stick to them till the time they are stress-free because that’s the actual point of them.

What do you think about friends with emotional benefits? Let us know in the comments section below.

Pictures and GIFs sourced from Tumblr

January 18, 2016
Six ways to overcome a bad breakup

Breakups are hard and there is no denying that. Separating yourself from your significant other is not only a change in your daily routine but also your habits that develop after many lovely days spent together. While at times breakups come as a relief from a long, painful relationship; there are changes that might make one feel a little lost in the recovery process. And it is absolutely normal. Everybody goes through the pain of overcoming a bad breakup and we feel that it is important at some level. The one thing that can make overcoming a bad breakup easy is not looking at it in a negative light. When you’re going through a breakup ask yourself if you really need a complicated, unrewarding relationship. We are sure the answer will be no and if it is, move on. Take a look at the positive side and understand yourself better. Here are ways to overcome a bad breakup and come out of it feeling light and refreshed.

PS: There is no fast way of getting through a breakup. It is a gradual process and taking time to grieve is very normal.

#1 Understand the importance of being in a rewarding relationship

Breaking up isn’t always as bad as it is touted to be. Being in a relationship that doesn’t make you feel emotionally empowered is worse than being in no relationship at all. Think about your equation with your parents or your best friend. If your significant other doesn’t reciprocate feelings the same way they do, they do not deserve to be “significant” in your life. Understand it and move on and find someone who would treat you as an equal.

#2 Socialise but spend some time with yourself too

It’s a common perception that getting too busy is the best way of getting out of a daunting breakup. It is true, but not entirely. Filling the new void in your life with friends and work is all right, but it is essential that you become comfortable with the idea of not having another person around. Spend some time alone, by yourself to make your peace with it and move on in a healthy fashion. And by healthy, we do not mean with a bottle of vodka, a jar of Nutella and a rom-com with Jennifer Aniston.

#3 Take time to grieve

It’s okay to hold your own while going through an emotional trauma, but taking time to grieve is vital. You will think about moments from the past and it will make your cry and it is best to just do it! Call up a friend and talk to them about how you feel, cry if you feel like. Believe us; it’ll be better than crying in front of Tom from work with a glass (read bottle) of wine in your hand. Think about what’ll happen on Monday after, therefore, just stick to friends for the grief.

#4 Don’t be disheartened by your breakup, take it in a positive stride

Breakups happen because two people cannot understand everything about each other. And both the people are at fault, stop punishing yourself alone. Instead, take this as learning to a better relationship, when you have one. Reflect on what went wrong and correct it so next time when love comes your way, you treat it well.

#5 Start a fitness regime

Join a gym or a fitness studio and get going. Exercise is an underutilised antidepressant and you must make good use of it. We’d recommend a mix of yoga, zumba, cardio and strength workouts to keep the excitement alive. You’ll learn something new, make new friends and get a good change. Go out, get fit, feel healthy and embrace a new lifestyle.

Relationship goals are incomplete without #fitness goals! Do you agree? #GetSetSweat #India #workoutWednesday pic.twitter.com/Us8yb1jThn
— fitpass (@fitpassindia) January 6, 2016
#6 Write about how you feel Another underutilised way to overcoming a bad breakup is writing.You will feel the need to make an angry phone call or leave an angry text message but take it from us, it will not help. It might make things worse actually. Space yourself out from your SO for a bit and instead of the angry call/text, write how you feel on a piece of paper. By writing we do not mean send it out via post, NO! Just write and vent out. We are sure you’ll feel better.

All said and done, breakups are tough but relax, the worst is over. You need to look at all the new adventures that are waiting. We hope this guide to overcoming a bad breakup helps you. Take care of yourself, breathe and smile.

January 15, 2016